Hello everyone, my name is Samantha, and I’d like to share a story that I hope will inspire both married and unmarried women. As a steamfitter and a supervisor, I’ve been earning over $100 per hour, which required me to work out of town once our son, Terry, was old enough to be taken care of by my husband.
Because of my high income, our retirement savings grew, and we could afford a comfortable lifestyle. However, as my husband, Ben, gained more influence at work, he began to adopt the sexist attitudes of his colleagues. This became evident in our fifth year of marriage when he started criticizing me for not doing enough cleaning, despite my demanding job and higher earnings. Our marriage, once a partnership of shared dreams, began to crumble under these new expectations.
His attitude worsened, and he often made a mess at home without cleaning up, a behavior that our son began to imitate. When I suggested hiring a cleaner to ease the burden, Ben refused, insisting it was my job. Frustrated and angry, I decided that if he wouldn’t help, I wouldn’t pay for anything.
One evening, after dinner, Terry echoed his father’s disrespectful behavior by demanding I clean up. I exploded in anger, telling him I wouldn’t lift a finger until he apologized. His response, influenced by his father, was chilling: “Fine, Dad said that if you don’t do it, we will find another agreeable woman and live with her!” That night, I decided to leave.
I packed my bags and went on a long-planned vacation with my friend Natalie, leaving Ben and Terry to fend for themselves. During that week, I ignored Ben’s calls, and my absence forced them to confront their own actions. My mother later informed me that Ben missed me and regretted his behavior.
Two weeks later, I returned but stayed at my mother’s house. Ben and Terry soon showed up with gifts and balloons, begging for forgiveness. With a wry smile, I realized they had learned a valuable lesson: finding another woman to take my place wasn’t so easy.
Their transformation was remarkable. They became attentive and respectful, turning our home into a sanctuary of mutual respect. Our painful journey highlighted the importance of respect and the transformative power of love. In the end, we found not only forgiveness but a new path forward, built on shared responsibilities and mutual respect.