So I went Christmas shopping and met my friend who I haven’t seen for 6 months.
Me — Hey, how are you?
Her — I’ve divorced my husband.
Me — Sorry to hear that! But you’ve been living together for almost 20 years and everything seemed so good.
So we decided to have a cup of coffee and she told me everything.
Around February my husband started to have some financial issues: some months there was no bonus, others his salary was less.
By the summer it was only my salary that we were living on. He would bring home some bacon, of course, but it was many times less than I was bringing home.
Additionally, he was constantly having issues: the car was broken down, his parents needed urgent help, etc. I wasn’t upset about all that because there were times when I wasn’t earning a lot and we were living on his money.
When he went fishing, he and his friends have had this tradition of going fishing every year for 15 years. When he came back home, I started to go through his belongings so I could wash them and I found a branded plastic bag from a store that sold expensive footwear.
I thought he probably just took the first available bag he could find on the boat and put his things in it.
A couple of weeks passed, and I was going to the supermarket. So I finished shopping, opened the trunk, and saw 2 plastic bags from the same luxury footwear shop with his athletic clothes in them. At that moment my trigger got flipped and I got suspicious about everything.
It was my husband’s birthday. He came home with a new phone and said it was a gift from his colleagues. An iPhone! That costs $1,000! No way! He gave his old phone to our daughter. I checked it, wrote down all his contacts, and started to call them.
Bingo! Checked the internet and found this store’s Instagram page. I looked through all the followers and found a girl named Hilary. Her page was full of photos with huge bouquets, fancy restaurants, and comments a-la, “A present from my significant other”
The tough part was a photo with my husband and a comment that said, “On a vacation with my beloved.”
As it turned out later, he had actually started to earn more because he got promoted at work. He was just spending all of his money on that girl, he was renting an apartment for her, giving her presents, etc.”
I was expecting to hear something about pride and “I’ll never forgive him” but she answered differently, saying “Do you want an honest answer?” I think I would have forgiven him. At first, I didn’t tell him I knew the truth I just kept silent.
In September, when our daughter started her final year at school, we started to discuss hiring some tutors. She wanted to apply to a medical university and needed someone to help her with preparation. So he said that he didn’t have the money and tried to get her to apply to a different school.
I called my husband’s boss (we have good relationship with him) and he said that my hubby had already borrowed $5,000 for our daughter’s tutors.
That’s how everything was revealed. He has become a stranger to me since then. I instantly filed for a divorce.
At one moment my friend said, “It doesn’t matter anymore. Isn’t it cool how I managed to find the truth with the help of one plastic bag!” So the moral to this story is, never underestimate a woman’s logic. Ever.