Relationships are not always love and peace between two people who love each other. When you are in love with someone, even a small thing that they might do can make you mad or upset.
Everyone makes mistakes. The important thing in relationships is to not make mistakes that are unforgivable and that can break the relationship apart.
If you’ve noticed that your man is angry at you and you want to make peace with him, here’s what you can do:
1. Treat his anger as a call for help
Psychological distress might be the reason behind your man’s anger. Hence, offer him assistance. Ask him if there is anything you could do to make him feel better. By making an effort to understand what has angered him can help him better handle it.
2. Try to remain calm
It is very natural for your temper to flare when your partner is angry. However, your counter-anger will only escalate the tension. Though it is difficult, try to remain calm and patient. When you feel your temper rising, breathe and then respond thoughtfully.
3. Make him feel emotionally safe
When your man is angry, say soothing things to your husband and avoid criticizing him. In addition, listen attentively to him and make him feel emotionally supported. Remember that men need emotional safety just as much as women do.
4. Practice compassion
This is another solution you need. Turn your angry husband’s hostile feelings into love and kindness through compassion. Practicing compassion against his intense reactions can help heal you both.
5. Listen to him actively
Never just wait for him to finish speaking so that you can start talking. Communicate directly and use reflective listening. Make sure you reaffirm whatever your partner shares with you. He won’t feel connected unless he feels you get what he is saying or experiencing.
6. Spot the anger early
Keep in mind that prevention is better than cure. Early intervention from your side either keeps the anger from starting or at least keeps it from getting stronger. The sooner you recognize the anger, the greater your ability to respond and manage the situation before it gets out of control.